So welcome to goal setting section of the course.
And there's this section that I'm hoping you'd be able to recognize how it is that I'm actually pulling
all of the prior sections no together would lay the foundations.
We've looked at core identity we have looked to our core values were to look to our beliefs.
We have looked at the limiting beliefs that people have that fundamentally hold them back in life.
And we've looked at ways in which we can start questioning and perhaps tearing some unhelpful or some
inaccurate beliefs down.
Now we will start looking at Gall's and we've looked at communication skills throughout the last section
in the section whilst we are primarily going to be focussed on goals.
We're also going to be looking at how we can use the communication skills and language patterns that
were looked at in the last section to help people define and specify the goals that behalf because when
it comes to setting goals there are actually six different types.
Now there are some people in the world who would disagree with me but I don't care.
This is my course.
I say that there's sex because there really are.
I'm going to explain to you and hopefully show you how what I say is true here.
Right.
Because not all Gall's are the same and the goals that we pursue in life are always going to determine
the amount of stress that accompanies us in life are exactly the same time.
Do you remember earlier in the course we looked at the four levels and stages of life.
Did we do remember I introduced to this introduced to the side.
We have the louring years then we have that area in years.
Then we have the legacy years and the golden years were all these are the four stages of natural progression
in life.
This is kind of what progress looks like.
We've already established to make progress and life is one of our our core fundamental you know needs
all of our basic drivers our motivations in life.
And that is the only direction which we can actually progress.
So it's important to understand that in order to make progress in life it's crucial that we are meeting
and fulfilling goals.
So in order to meet up for full the right goals that are going to help us to move forward and progress
is crucial that we understand the different types of goals and therefore manage our expectations in
relation to whether the goals that we are investing or time into are actually going to help us to progress
or whether the not because you've also heard me say throughout the course you know or asked you the
question how do you eat an elephant.
Well that's right eat an elephant one bite at a time.
So this model here is going to help you to understand that in relation to goal setting because there
are some people in life who have the grandest ideas the greatest Gall's but end up accomplishing and
achieving nothing.
Yeah there's some people that might only have one goal in life they're end up accomplishing one goal
and millions more.
And everything in between sort of what I have come to recognize is that we can really only ever have
one gritters life vision in life and all who have ever heard the term that a person a man or a woman
with a vision will perish.
No.
Recently I went to the cinema with my wife Karen and we went to see the movie hacksaw Reg. The actor
Ben Garfield I think can't remember his name but it was about an American soldier in the Second World
War who was completely opposed to violence.
No.
He defined himself as being a conscientious objector.
And whilst he didn't want to go and fight at war he did want to save life so we ended up becoming a
medick and ended up you know getting though I would've been awarded the star of bravery for saving the
life's off.
I think he was seventy five men single handedly as well as the rest of his battalion had retreated.
He remained on the battlefield saving lives and lowering them down to a place of safety.
No.
The reason I tell you that is because right at the start of the phone there was a quartz that popped
up on the screen that I'd heard so many times before and never really appreciated them.
This is this movie hux or Reg really room signed me off of the reason why I did the things that I do
in life.
And this quote was there.
It said A man's reach must be greater than his grasp.
No.
When it came to the phone the soldier who is played by Garfield has his gall as he was saving all these
lives.
He would save the life of one person.
And he'd realize he still had energy to carry on so he'd say just one more.
Just one more.
Oh he was quite a religious man so we pray.
Please God.
Just one more just one more just one more.
He kept on going until there's more no more to say it until he pretty much end up giving up his own
life.
No.
I tell you this because in life many people grasp want to keep hold of what they have.
You'll remember in the last section we talked about the security and freedom in two quite contrasting
values I shared with you the story of my wrist biard marguerites Bard grasped on to security and rejected
freedom for fear of losing what he heard.
So when I'm talking about this this this this quarter feel like a man's reach must be greater than his
grasp.
What this means is that in life with always good to be focussed and driving toward something that is
greater than what it is that we currently have and we do this through setting goals.
So in life you're going to have a greatest life vision.
This is the first and the most prominent goal that we have in life that's going to drive us off often
beyond all of.
It's the greatest slide vision for how we see our life unfolding.
At some point in the future there is an exercise that I'm going to be sharing with you shortly to help
you define your life vision the greatest vision that you have for your future because if you're able
to do less for yourself than you're going to be able to coach other people through the exact same process.
I mean I'm going to share with you a little template a workbook that you can use in yourself and then
others in your life coaching practice.
So a lot going to go into greatness like vision too much detail for an eye.
This video is just to give you a broad overview of all the different types of goals because in order
to fail or a life vision in life it is imperative that were always working towards long term goals establishing
long term goals.
No one we're talking about long term goals.
They're called long term goals because we're most likely not going to thaw them today.
There are projects that were working towards long term goals in life which can only ever really have
a few.
May have won business long term goal or a career long term goal.
We should have a family or a relationship's long term goal and we should have some sort of community
society long term goal.
So we have a business goal.
We have a family goal or a relationships goal and then we have some sort of community goal.
Were looking to give back to society in some way because this helps us to maintain a really balanced
perspective.
It's the things that we say yes to the things that we see nor to the people that we take this on into
the future and those that we leave behind.
But in order to fulfil these long term goals it's crucial that we were able were able to set milestones
in place to monitor the progress in which we're making.
Hence the reason for the medium term milestone goals right now in the tional materials section of this
video.
There's a short mini fact sheet that's going to have all of this explain them broken down to help you
understand everything that I'm talking about here and a bit more detail.
But a milestone goals are kind of what comp between where we're at.
And those long term goals we're in is that we ultimately want to reach.
The only way that we're ever going to fulfil our medium term goals is by accomplishing and for fund
for fehling and having little successes in all or for the short term goals.
Now you see in this pyramid if you like short term goals there may be many could be hundreds.
Your to do list could be a mile long and medium term goals cannot you cannot afford to have that many
medium term goals immediate medium term goals kind of poo together and are a culmination of a whole
load of short term goals then a number of medium term goals are going to clump together and then leads
you towards one or potentially two but generally not more than that tough year long term goals.
So a lot of these will equal one or two of those.
There were two or three of those will for fell one possibly two of those and absolute push.
So you're always going to have more short term goals I don't know.
Here's the thing.
If someone's focussed only on short term goals all the time then the most likely going to end up fuelled
quite unfold feeling like they're not really getting anywhere in life.
Now you're going to be able to identify someone who lives their life in this way through being very
very busy someone who's just you know ask themselves How you doing how's work.
I will say things to you like I'm just so busy at the moment.
They were half full diary's you know you try and get five minutes of their time is going to be unbelievable.
No I don't know if you've ever heard the saying If you want something done.
Speak to a busy person.
Well I'm an AC abiders just a complete fabrication of the truth that is not true in my experience.
If you want something done.
Go to an available person.
Right.
Because of the difference between available people and busy people busy people are generally busy because
are busy minded The frantically clutching at straws focussing on short term goals getting all the short
term stuff done hoping that in some way their life's going to work miraculously.
But this is not a wise way to live nor a mature way to live the mature way to look to leivers to get
clear on the vision that we have for a future then set in place the long term goals that are going to
fill this future mainly vision.
They want to establish and backtrack the medium term goals that are in turn going to help us stay for
the long term goals and then we just then need to work out the To Do list of things we need to start
doing more of today that are going to enable us to start moving forward towards a medium term long term
and ultimately our main life vision a broad overview of this make sense.
There are six I've mentioned for there's two left.
Two left which are us.
We are progressing through the different levels of Gall's.
We're going to identify if we're aware of ourselves new skills that we need to develop in order to progress
farther for example won't back a number of years ago.
I just want to be self-employed.
That was one of my long term goals which was a really rewarding long term goal.
That makes sense.
Let me explain.
For me being self-employed was actually just about me being free.
Apart from employment which I actually was just more of a medium term goal all I needed to do was just
commit to doing something no other side.
Self-employed within itself was actually quite straightforward.
I just had to fill in a tax form set up a Facebook page get a website in place register as a myself
as a life coach on a few directories and based on what country you're in and the world is going to determine
what directories are going to be relevant for you.
But those are the fundamental basics.
I wasn't an expert but what I quickly identified was I needed to develop some new skills.
I've never done any of this stuff before and the early stages of business.
To be honest with you if you don't you're not.
Most people don't have much choice other than to do stuff themselves.
That was true for me and it may not be true for you.
But new skills are just goals we can we can try to work our way through here based on the skill sets
we have.
But you've got to understand that science is evolving.
Technology is evolving every single day.
And if we are not also of evolving through developing and learning new skills then we are unfortunately
going to get left behind which is most likely going to be the case for the clients or some of the clients.
You want to work with.
And then it's also important to recognize the habits that we have in our life that are actually holding
us back.
Bad habits.
This could be productivity.
Bad habits timekeeping habits could be relational habits could be habits that we have as we communicate
conversationally.
Hence the reason is imperative that we keep on growing.
Taking courses like this if you found last communication skills section interesting that you may want
to further your development off your communication skills through focussing just on communication skills
courses or books or do more research.
Good study therapeutic counselling or any or PE or something like that because were not all born experts
everything so it is crucial that us as human beings mature men and women in order to maintain balance
and a life.
We're constantly looking at the skills we need to develop and the habits that we need to Kek which are
just the last to take to go there.
I'd like to mention in this video.
So this is just an overview and hope that all of this makes sense and is quite straightforward.
It should be.
As I mentioned in the additional material section there is an information fact sheet that you can print
off and have a look through.
If this doesn't make complete sense to you but this is pretty much the model that we're going to be
basing the rest of this section on over the next couple of videos we're going to be taking a look at
the greatest life vision because this is kind of the big picture.
This is the global perspective where some people get focussed in in detail.
There's nothing wrong with details but with the global perspective the common first year you actually
don't have any perspective at all.
So what I do when I'm working with coaching clients is get the ground this possible vision that they
have for their life.
First and foremost and then we start work and back once of work with established all the goals at the
need to set in order to fulfil their their core values if you like.
We then start looking at last but not least are the new skills.
To develop the habits that they need to Kek.
So the big can start making progress in their lives today or at least feel like they're making progress
anyway.
So this makes sense.
Any bus or for an old Ford a senior.
In the next video.